Number One, Happily Ever After!
Disney princesses, endless love songs and happily ever after romantic stories have played a huge role in conditioning our minds and infecting our hearts with less than realistic love notions and like die hard football fans, many of us have clung to our ideas of happily ever after, taking each failed relationship in our stride, eyes fixed on the elusive but wonderfully perfect Mr. Right but perhaps it is time we went back to the drawing board and swallowed that big reality pill we’ve been eyeing.
1. Love at First Sight
Because you didn’t feel a spark the first time he said hello or get butterflies on your first date doesn’t mean he can’t be the one.
Attraction is important no doubt but sometimes getting to really know ap erson may surprisingly be the spark you need to light up your world.
2. Men Love a Damsel in Distress
Yes. Men like their women to be feminine and to make them feel needed but there’s a thin line between needed and ‘needy’!!!
If you don’t have a job, qualifications or even dreams of your own and feel the need to rely on your man for EVERYTHING he’s going to get drained and weary of you soon enough.
3. Sex Strengthens a Relationship
No it doesn’t. Many times it takes the place of emotional intimacy, kicks good conversation to the curb, pulls the wool over your eyes where your partner’s flaws are concerned, makes you more territorial since you are giving your all in quote and keeps you longer than necessary in a relationship doomed to failure.
4. All Men Cheat
No they don’t. Most men do however, but going into a relationship with that mentality gives your man the excuse to misbehave since you don’t believe he is capable of staying faithful without the checks and balances you have put in place.Â
Expecting so little from your man eliminates the opportunities he has to impress you. “She already expects me to cheat so whether I do or I don’t, I am the villain, I might as well…”
5. Happily Ever After
Many people look at love as something that should work out beautifully without much effort once the two people are finally together.Â
We are in love with the slogan ‘…and they lived happily ever after’. Once a relationship falls short of a happy ever after, many of us tend to start looking out, we begin to doubt the authenticity of the relationship but girl, relationships are hard work!
At some point in the relationship love becomes a choice not a feeling, sometimes the choice to love your man after seeing his worst side can be difficult but he is going through it too and choosing to love you.
The fact that your relationship isn’t perfect is evidence that it is real.
6. My Man is the strong Silent type who doesn’t know how to express his feelings
Beware, looking for cues because there are no words may leave you misinterpreting his actions and intentions. Your strong, silent man could be avoiding commitment since no words mean no broken promises or he may be silent about his feelings because he isn’t feeling any or even hiding something far worse.
7. The Tall, Dark and Handsome beau
Some people are late bloomers and if you don’t look deeper, you’ll miss the potential. Many a girl has been rudely awakened after catching a glimpse of a carelessly tossed aside admirer now transformed into the man of their dreams just when it was too late to reconcile. Be guided.
8. Picking a Fight is the only way to revitalize a boring relationship.
Please put your inner diva on the shelf along with this myth. Picking fights just to stir things up a bit and just so that you can have the big, mushy makeup is immature and wears the relationship thin in the long run.
9. Mini-Breakups are the ultimate wake up call
Don’t breakup if it isn’t over for good.
Don’t breakup after every fight. Don’t breakup just so he can beg you to take him back. Don’t breakup to punish him! Breaking up at every whim shows a lack of commitment to the relationship and like the boy who cried wolf, one day you may have run out of chances.
Love is definitely a work in progress even for old timers and dispelling these worrisome myths is the first step to embracing the wholesome, lasting relationship you crave.
Good luck!
